‘See your potential by the sea’

Sandra Yancey knows what it takes to grow a big business and organization. She also remembers that road to the top can be full of sacrifices, but the climb is worth the journey.

She remembers crying after losing her best friend when she was a little girl. Learning how to handle that situation from her mother, became the backbone for a career that includes creating the nationwide eWomen Network, which will be presenting “See your potential by the sea” in Corpus Christi from Feb. 24-27 at the Radisson Corpus Christi Beach..

Along the way, the founder and CEO of eWomen Network of one million women learned to never use the word “fine.” She told a full house at the eWomen Network McKinney-Allen Chapter meeting in June that she wants women to stop using the word “fine.”

“Ladies, we only use the word fine when we don’t mean it,” Yancey said. “It is rare you hear men use the word ‘fine.’ When I lost my best friend, I went into my room, closed the door and sobbed. My mother asked me ‘What is wrong?’ I said, ‘Nothing, I’m fine.’ “

Her mom made a lasting impression when she asked, “If you are so fine, why are you all curled up in bed?”

When her friend Penny became friends with Emily and left little Sandra alone, that led her to discover a strategy for life and business.

“My mother said, ‘You are going to go out and start acting like a best friend, and soon you will have a best friend.’ “

Yancey said your top five friends can determine your life. She said some friends have to go.

“When I’m on the phone with someone who is negative, I find my whole mood shifts,” she said. “When you have someone toxic in your life who brings you down, we need to hug them and let them go.”

Yancey spends two hours a day writing in a journal.

“I give nothing but gratitude,” Yancey said.

She said eWomen Network started slow in a free room in La Madeleine in Dallas. When her friends didn’t show, she went out and made new ones and through time chapters popped up around the country.

“Your future is the people you don’t know,” Yancey said. “You can have an amazingly successful local business if you just want to fit in. If all you do is fit in, all you will be is a ‘me too’ and an ‘also-ran.’ What you can’t have is an amazing multi-million dollar business if you don’t meet new people and don’t stand out. To have an amazing multi-million dollar business you have to have one thing. Those women who figure this out will have one. There is a little space between fitting in and standing out. You have to stand out.”

Yancey told the group one small step can help in any social or business setting.

“Do not sit next to your girl friends,” she told the women in the meeting at Eldorado Country Club in McKinney. She said starting a business can’t be done with just family and friends.

“Do they buy from you?” Yancey asked. “All we ever hear is start with your family and friends. What a great way to experience a letdown. Can you imagine the psychological damage to you when you set yourself up for all of that rejection? What I have learned is I had to get out of my own backyard to be successful. Your friends and family will wait until you are self-evident before they will buy.”

Yancey said always go after more of the market.

“Do you think Bill Gates sits around and says ’20 percent of the market is enough?’ Coke is the most popular brand on the market. Do we see them stop advertising?

“People make a decision on you in a nano second,” Yancey said. “That’s almost too soon. One thing people will never forget about you is when you help them.”

She said don’t count on luck, but do count on the universe.

“I think there is a lot less luck out there than we believe. But the universe is always right on time,” she said. “Let’s see all of the positive things we can put out in to the universe.” The last time she went shopping for shoes with her daughter, they couldn’t find a parking place. By putting positive thoughts out, a parking space suddenly opened in front of her car.

Yancey said everyone has to go out and create their own future.

“The corporations are not going to be hiring anybody any time soon,” Yancey said.

Yancey met with a Dell executive after meeting one on a plane, who said small business owned by women was the fastest growing market. She made sure that she listened to what Dell needed before making a presentation.

“It was about listening to what their pain points were,” Yancey said. “It doesn’t have to be about pain points. It could be about their dreams. It is about relationships. Ladies, it is slower. Relationships take time. Networking is not about getting everybody’s card in this room.”

She said stop multi-tasking to be a success.

“Multi-tasking is a waste of a life,” she said.

She suggests building a list with two sides. On the left, put all the “fabulous, wonderful people in your life.” On the other side, list the “people you don’t know who you need to know.’ Then, draw a third column The third column is for all the toxic people. Give them a hug and let them go.”

“Successful people hang around successful people,” she said. “It is not about playing in a safe zone. When you get someone’s card who you want to meet, you dog-ear the upper corner of their card. Your future is in your followup, and in the people you don’t know.”

Yancey also said women can’t be successful by trying to be men.

“We are not like men,” Yancey said. “The more we try to be like them, the more we are an imposter.”

Next time Yancey is in town, ask her about crossing your heart and joining the Jane Russell girls club. That’s a story that’s best in person.

Join: The local McKinney-Allen chapter of eWomen Network meets on the second Thursday of each month at Eldorado Country Club. To register for upcoming events, email DebraPope@eWomenNetwork.com or call her at 214-592-5196.

On the Web: http://www.ewomennetwork.com/

The Glow Project: http://www.glowproject.org/

Quick look at new McKinney city manager Jason Gray

If you like how Frisco has been growing, Jason Gray is expected to bring what he learned there to McKinney as the new city manager. He replaces Frank Ragan, who resigned in the summer of 2010.
Gray will be stepping down as city manager of Celina to take the job in McKinney. Before Celina, Gray was assistant city manager in Frisco.

Gray by the numbers:

4 – years Gray has been city manager of Celina, Texas.
8 – years working in Frisco
21 – Gray’s first day in McKinney on job in March
$190,000 – Number of dollars per year in McKinney

Degrees of Gray
Bachelor’s degree – Political Science, Minnesota State – Moorhead (Team nickname is the Dragons)
Master’s degree – Public Service Administration, Texas A&M’s George Bush School of Government

Looking for something to do?

The “Hats off to McKinney: 2011 Community Awards Celebration” will be at 7 p.m. Friday, Feb. 18 at Eldorado Country Club at 2604 Country Club Drive.

Happy birthday to McKinney’s A.M. Scott company, which just turned 100 years old.

The Kiwanis Club Pancake Breakfast runs from 6 a.m. to noon Saturday, Feb. 19 at First Christian Church (behind Brookshire’s Grocery) 1800 W. Hunt Street. Event director Glynn Wingard said the Pancake Breakfast (pancakes, sausage, juice and coffee) is “like a large family gathering, in that people meet old friends and make new ones. Everyone visits with each other, laugh a lot and have a great time.” Kiwanis meets from noon to 1 p.m. every Thursday at St. Peter’s Episcopal Church at 608 W. Lamar Street. …

Third Monday Trade Days is back this weekend on Hwy. 380 from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. … This weekend also marks the 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. flea market at the Old Red Lumberyard Antique & Vintage Sale just east of downtown.

The weather is expected to be warm Saturday, Feb. 19 for the Historic Farmers Market at Chestnut Square near downtown and right off Hwy. 5. During the winter, the Farmers Market is every third Saturday. Weekly markets start up again March 19.

The Stonebridge Ranch Ladies Association Fashion Show will be at the Heard-Craig Center from 6 to 8 p.m. Monday, Feb. 28. The fashion show and silent auction benefits My Friend`s House. Look for food by Patina Green and fashions from downtown merchants. Purchase a seat at http://www.srla.us. … The Vintage Fashion Exhibit from the collections of The Heritage Guild of Collin County will be on display from 11 a.m. until 1 p.m. on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays during March (or by appointment). See dresses dating back to the 1850s at Chestnut Square Historic Village at 315 S. Chestnut Street.

The Laura Moore Fine Art Studios offers “Beaujolais Nouveau” at 107 South Tennessee from 1 to 5 p.m. Saturdays through March 9. …

Dogs will be on display at two big events. The first is the Old West Newfoundland Club dog show at Myers Park north of Hwy. 380 from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. Saturday and Sunday, Feb. 19-20. Then, the Ninth-Annual Krewe of Barkus “Happy Trails to You” runs from 12:30 to 4:30 p.m. Sunday, March 6.

Reckless Kelly will be on stage at 9:30 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 19 at Hank’s Texas Grill on White Ave. and U.S. 75. … Hank’s presents Charlie Robison on Feb. 18.

Debra Pope of the eWomen Network presents “See your potential by the sea” in Corpus Christi from Feb. 24-27 at the Radisson Corpus Christi Beach at 3200 Surfside Blvd. The local chapter returns to Eldorado Country Club on March 10.

The Collin County GOP Awards Luncheon will be from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 26 at the Hilton Garden Inn on U.S. 75 in Allen. Candy Noble and Neal Katz serve as co-chairs for the event. Awards include the Gladys Harrington Award, Dixie Clem Award, County Chairman Award and Collin County Club Awards.

The McKinney Community Band will be performing at 7:30 p.m. on Friday, March 4 with “rousing, toe-tapping marches from Tchaikovsky to Sousa” and more at the McKinney Performing Arts Center. … Sousa once performed across the street in the McKinney opera house. …

The Yesterday and Today Fashion Show and Tea Luncheon will be from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, March 5 at MPAC. Proceeds benefit the Chestnut Square Historic Village. … Want to tour Chesnut Square? Docents lead public tours on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays at 11 a.m. and share their knowledge about Collin County history, the houses and buildings and the families who lived in them. …

The Collin County Lincoln Society, led by former Plano mayor Jeran Akers, will be back in McKinney at Rick’s Chophouse from noon to 1 p.m. Wednesday, March 9. The group meets the second Wednesday each month. Akers has been on the speaker circuit asking everyone to consider signing up as an organ donor.

Congressman Allen West
of Florida will be the keynote speaker for the Lincoln Day Dinner at the Allen Event Center on Saturday, April 2. The 43rd-annual dinner sponsored by the Collin County Republican Party will have a VIP reception at 6 p.m. with dinner at 7 p.m. Col. West served in Operation Desert Storm, Iraqi Freedom and trained troops in Afghanistan. The Lincoln Day event includes Live and Silent Auctions and dinner prepared by Chef John Latta.

ArtWalk returns to downtown McKinney on Saturday, April 9 from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m.

“Bugs” runs from 9:45 a.m. until 5 p.m. every day through May 15 at the Heard Museum. The exhibit shows that “being spineless has never been so cool!”

To find a Toastmasters Club for leadership and speaking skills, look on http://www.toastmasters.org.

Eldorado Country Club is a busy place for civic groups on Wednesdays. At 7:30 a.m., the Sunrise “Flag Club” Rotary meets there. … The Lions Club meets at noon Wednesdays at Eldorado Country Club just west of U.S. 75. In McKinney, the Lions Club has been an active part of the community since 1920. … Rick’s Chophouse hosts the Rotary Club of McKinney at noon Fridays at 107 N. Kentucky Street. Bruce Heller from the Allen Sunrise Rotary will discuss Rotary’s Shelter Box program and what a global impact it is making on. Feb. 18. Victor Burke of DART will be the Rotary speaker Feb. 25.

Quote from Brian Tracy: “Become the kind of leader that people would follow voluntarily, even if you had no title or position.”

Another look at Rick’s Chophouse

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1. To perfectly sear a steak you need a very hot grill.

2. To get star marks on your steaks get three grill marks at 1/3 turn on each side.

3. When slow smoking meats you should have a spray bottle full of tasty liquid to spray when meat is looking dry.

4. You can smoke anything if you put your mind to it… I smoke grapes, avocados and onions all of which are served in my restaurants.. My doctor did tell me to quit though…

5. Clean and season your grill before cooking on it. Clean it with a brush and oil your grates well. You can cut an onion in half, coat it with a little oil, and use that to oil your grates instead of using a rag. This will add a little extra flavor.

6. Have fun!

Recipe source: TLC
Petersen, Paul. “Paul Petersen — Pablo Diablo\u0027s Grilling Tips” 18 November 2009. HowStuffWorks.com. 11 February 2011.


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